Anonymous said: I am a straight, white, male. Every sexual experience I've ever had with an girl has been completely consensual. I've even stopped messing around one time when she said she wasn't comfortable; we just cuddled the rest of the night. But I make rape jokes, because I believe that laughter is extremely powerful and by making (tasteful) jokes about rape, you only help the issue. What is your opinion on me as a whole? And before you say I "don't understand" what rape is like I was raped when I was 7.


I wasn’t going to say that, I was going to say you went out of your way to come up with bullshit reasons as to why you think you deserve an award and shouldn’t be criticized for making rape jokes.

(I love dude bros who think rape jokes aren’t a big deal, but are way too sensitive to handle being criticized for it)

Whoah, whoah, WHOAH! Did lil’ buddy just say “tasteful jokes about rape.” Like…hmm…wait, wut?! No thank you, sir. You have just been excused from the conversation. 

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nah man life doesn’t get better when you educate yourself about feminism. life gets considerably harder. bc all of a sudden you pick up on all of these problematic things people you care about say and you start noticing every little way women are degraded and held down in society and you become hyperaware of how you speak and what you say and it’s really, really difficult and tiresome.

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stronglikeatitan said: hi I was just wondering what 'queerbaiting' meant? because I've seen it used a bit around this website but never with any context. Sorry if that's awfully ignorant of me.


I actually don’t know either.  Followers?  My apologies if this is considered a slur or word I shouldn’t be promoting on my blog, I’m totally unaware of it’s meaning and how it can be used so any followers willing to chime in, please do.

Typically it is used in reference to media that suggests it will include LGBTQ representation, but ultimately doesn’t. Like, if a show has two lead females that perpetually seem to have more than a friendship, but only ever date men throughout the series. Lesbian/bi/queer girls might continue to watch the show solely in hopes of seeing a relationship blossom in popular culture that looks like them, but if it never happens they are being “queerbaited” into watching the program. It’s a tactic used to broaden a show’s audience without having to run the risk of challenging the dominant heteronormative image typically provided in media.

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Anonymous said: I'm a cis white male and I recently had sex with a man, do I get to stop checking my privilege now?


I ACTUALLY can’t tell if this is a joke or a troll. I’m leaning towards the former, but… you just never know on this site…

The answer is: No. You are still a white, cis male. Having a queer identity does not absolve a person from participating in and benefiting from unfair power structures. Having any marginalized identity does not wipe the slate clean. This isn’t the oppression Olympics. Women (straight, gay, bi, etc) oppress other women, trans people oppress other trans people, and people of color are capable of oppressing other people of color. What kind of a question is this? I agree that this is probably an attempt at trolling….but it is so misguided that I felt it warranted a response. If it was meant as a joke…well, it isn’t very funny.

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Gonna keep a tally of messages I get from a) white feminists completely proving my point and b) people who think this comic proves feminism is worthless because I criticized one part of it. (Even despite me writing these words underneath the comic.) Then I’ll add them all up, see which column has more, and then drink myself to sleep either way.
Haha… this is why we can’t have nice things.


Gonna keep a tally of messages I get from a) white feminists completely proving my point and b) people who think this comic proves feminism is worthless because I criticized one part of it. (Even despite me writing these words underneath the comic.) Then I’ll add them all up, see which column has more, and then drink myself to sleep either way.

Haha… this is why we can’t have nice things.

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'Sista Girls' by Bindi Cole

The term ‘Sistagirl’ is used to describe a transgender person in Tiwi Island culture. Traditionally, the term was ‘Yimpininni’.  The very existence of the word provides some indication of the inclusive attitudes historically extended towards Aboriginal sexual minorities. Colonisation not only wiped out many indigenous people, it also had an impact on Aboriginal culture and understanding of sexual and gender expression. As Catholicism took hold and many traditions were lost, this term became a thing of the past. Yimpininni were once held in high regard as the nurturers within the family unit and tribe much like the Faafafine from Samoa. As the usage of the term vanished, tribes’ attitudes toward queer indigenous people began to resemble that of the western world and religious right. Even today many Sistergirls are excluded from their own tribes and suffer at the hands of others.

Within a population of around 2500, there are approximately 50 ‘Sistagirls’ living on the Tiwi Islands. This community contains a complex range of dynamics including a hierarchy (a queen Sistergirl), politics, and a significant history of pride and shame. The Sistagirls are isolated yet thriving, unexplored territory with a beauty, strength and diversity to inspire and challenge.

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On Pronouns: They Matter

If you ever find yourself under the impression that pronoun choices don’t matter…that misgendering is simply a matter of an individual being “overly sensitive” (whatever that actually means)…then change yours tomorrow. If they truly are unimportant you should have no trouble hearing yourself referred to as something you don’t identify as. 

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Storme DeLarverie, a 93-year-old veteran activist who took part in the 1969 Stonewall uprising, died on Saturday morning in her sleep.


The New York Times did a powerful story on her four years ago. You can read it here.

Wrote Manny Fernandez:

"The woman in Room 609, Storme DeLarverie, has dementia. She is but one anonymous elderly New Yorker in a city with thousands upon thousands of them. And many of those who marched down Fifth Avenue on Sunday would be hard pressed to realize that this little old lady — once the cross-dressing M.C. of a group of drag-queen performers, once a fiercely protective (and pistol-packing) bouncer in the city’s lesbian bars — was one of the reasons they were marching."

I also posted about DeLarverie back in 2009 when she was facing eviction from her apartment in NYC’s Chelsea Hotel. Here is her page on the Stonewall Veterans’ Association website.


The Bronx LGBTQ Center sent out this remembrance of DeLarverie:

The Bronx LGBTQ Center is deeply saddened by the loss of a pioneer of the modern-day LGBTQ civil rights movement, Stormé Delarverie. Often referred to as the “Rosa Parks” as the gay rights movement, Stormé was a fierce woman who stood up for our community on countless occasions. She passed away peacefully in her sleep on the morning of Saturday, May 24, 2014. Stormé was an amazing and warm individual who spent her life taking care of people. It didn’t matter if they were lesbian, gay, straight, young, old, transgender, questioning, bisexual, Black, White, Latino — she treated everyone with the same warmth, compassion, kindness, conviction, courage, strength of spirit, and love. This led her to be dubbed the unofficial mother of our community, especially by those who knew her.

She was not someone who tolerated injustice, though she faced it on an almost daily basis throughout much of her life. Stormé was a Black lesbian who often presented as a Black man, although she could easily have passed for a White woman — she choose not to do so. Her love of people made Stormé an advocate, and she stood up to all injustice whenever she encountered or heard about it. It was this conviction that led her to change the world for all of us, for the better. Stormé is credited as having thrown on of the first punches during the Stonewall Uprising in June, 1969. But it was her ongoing effort throughout decades of caring for our community that most people who knew her, remember her.

A celebration of her life and immeasurable contributions to the modern Gay Civil Rights Movement will be held on Thursday, May 29th from 7-9pm at the Greenwich Village Funeral Home, 199 Bleecker Street (@ 6th Avenue), New York, NY. All are welcomed to honor this woman who forever changed our lives and helped launch the movement that will bring us equality.

Thank you Storme, and rest in peace power.

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Queerness is where our hope lies.
bell hooks, in response to a question about the space for and potentialities in genderqueerness and transness in a feminist discourse about bodies. 5th November 2013, Tishman Auditorium at The New School (via omuai)

(Source: ghasedeh)

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