Aug
24
2014

Reblogged from untilwelearntofly :

Dear White People

untilwelearntofly:

so-so-gender-fly:

Consider this your daily reminder that “reverse racism” does not exist. What you interpret as “racism” in action: hurts your feelings, makes you grumpy, gets you butt-hurt. Actual racism in action gets you shot six times in the back by a cop.

While this thought is valid and very much appreciated, there is no such thing as “reverse racism”. A member of any race discriminating against someone of another race for the mere fact they are of that race is simply called racism. And it exists in every race against every other race. And being a white person I can admit that racism towards white people from other races is deserved for many many reasons.

That being said, fighting fire with fire solves nothing. It only causes the whole fucking world to burn.

My heart goes out to the peaceful protesters in Ferguson and any other place where these horrendous events are happening and my hope is that we as society recognize that there is a much bigger issue here and that we can work together to resolve it. Of course that’s not likely to be what happens but you know what they say.

Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.

Actually…could you just not with this? Seriously

The point of the original post: Reverse Racism…as in, shit white people claim happens against them as perpetrated by disenfranchised people of color…it is not a real thing. Ever.

What you just said: It is a real thing. 

Racism is an institutional process fueled by power. Our culture prioritizes white supremacy at the expense of people of color. People of color (in the USA, as well as other Westernized nations) as a population do not hold power over the white population. What you are actually referring to is prejudice. Prejudice is a universal experience and can be aimed at anyone by anyone. Prejudice, however, does not imply privilege. White people who engage with racism are prejudiced, but people of color who hold prejudices lack the power necessary to engage in racism. 

People of color, as a population, can not deny the white population work and/or education, spread harmful misinformation about us, sentence us to longer/harsher judicial punishments, aim to control our reproduction, or unjustly put our communities on lock down and control the media coverage surrounding it…to name a few examples. 

So, stop with the “A member of any race discriminating against someone of another race…” crap. It isn’t helpful or useful. Also, if I never had to hear/read “fighting fire with fire” in reference to oppressed people reacting to their oppression again, that’d be real kewl.

Aug
24
2014

Dear White People

Consider this your daily reminder that “reverse racism” does not exist. What you interpret as “racism” in action: hurts your feelings, makes you grumpy, gets you butt-hurt. Actual racism in action gets you shot six times in the back by a cop.

Aug
13
2014

Asked by Anonymous:

I think you are focusing too much on the safety nets, yes we have them, but the issue is the racist cops, that is the source of the problem.


Actually, I think I focused on it the right amount. The police are notorious for being unjust to other marginalized of people, regardless of race, so it is important to remember that if you are in that situation AND WHITE you stand a better chance of coming out the other side in a better place than people of color. Also, white people who have gone to jail fare much better once they are out than people of color (namely, Black and Latin@ people). On top of that, our backgrounds don’t haunt us when we are the victims of violence, as is the case in Michael Brown’s murder (and others—Renisha McBride, for example). All of these are examples of safety nets afforded to white people that I would have been remiss had I not mentioned.

Concerning the officer that murdered Michael Brown, and every other police officer or vigilante who has unjustly taken the life of an unarmed person of color…I got news for you: They don’t exist in a vacuum. They are active participants in a racist society built around white supremacy. Their actions cannot be looked at as isolated instances perpetrated by THAT ONE RACIST GUY. Our culture raised them up to become the people that made those choices. This is not to excuse them, though. Not at all. But they are pieces of a larger problem that is institutional racism. Just because every racist person hasn’t killed doesn’t mean that those that have should be looked at as singular criminals that don’t represent the power structures on which our nation operates. 

Aug
13
2014

‪#IfTheyGunnedMeDown‬ which picture would they use? Frankly, it doesn’t matter. As a person who reaps the benefits of white privilege I am allowed to learn to shoot a gun and be photographed with fire arms and suffer no repercussions against my character. And my story would be very different from Michael Brown’s. It would vastly differ the stories (if told) of the Black people killed every 28 hours at the hands of police force or vigilantes. My story could easily show both pictures and label me as a dog lover and personal safety enthusiast. Whatever my actions,it is likely I could be excused. 
Ultimately, I am nowhere near as likely to find myself at the wrong end of an officer’s gun as the marginalized people of color in this country. A big part of bringing an end to the unjust systems of racism that run this nation has GOT to be white people recognizing these privileges and safety nets. We have to realize that we live in a world that has offered no safety nets for the people of color we live with. We can fuck up and bounce back. We can walk safely down the street in a hoodie. We can simply pass by a cop without fear of getting shot. While the rich, white people who run the NRA are constantly lobbying for the gun rights of every man, woman, and child, UNARMED Black KIDS are being gunned down in the STREETS by the very people we expect to keep them safe. As a white person, I pledge to stand up for the rights and safety of people of color in this country. I pledge to never shy away from the hard conversations—the ones where white people really have to digest exactly how privileged we are, and the expense that privilege comes at. I pledge to call out racism when I see it. I pledge to never be complicit with the racial bigotry happening around me. I pledge to always work to detox my own self from the racist culture I have been saturated in since birth. And, in the words of Mia McKenzie, I pledge to PUSH BACK against my privilege. 
The rights/safety of people of color is not an issue that is theirs alone. It is the white community’s burden to take it upon ourselves and combat this shit when it happens.

‪#IfTheyGunnedMeDown which picture would they use? Frankly, it doesn’t matter. As a person who reaps the benefits of white privilege I am allowed to learn to shoot a gun and be photographed with fire arms and suffer no repercussions against my character. And my story would be very different from Michael Brown’s. It would vastly differ the stories (if told) of the Black people killed every 28 hours at the hands of police force or vigilantes. My story could easily show both pictures and label me as a dog lover and personal safety enthusiast. Whatever my actions,it is likely I could be excused. 

Ultimately, I am nowhere near as likely to find myself at the wrong end of an officer’s gun as the marginalized people of color in this country. A big part of bringing an end to the unjust systems of racism that run this nation has GOT to be white people recognizing these privileges and safety nets. We have to realize that we live in a world that has offered no safety nets for the people of color we live with. We can fuck up and bounce back. We can walk safely down the street in a hoodie. We can simply pass by a cop without fear of getting shot. While the rich, white people who run the NRA are constantly lobbying for the gun rights of every man, woman, and child, UNARMED Black KIDS are being gunned down in the STREETS by the very people we expect to keep them safe. 
As a white person, I pledge to stand up for the rights and safety of people of color in this country. I pledge to never shy away from the hard conversations—the ones where white people really have to digest exactly how privileged we are, and the expense that privilege comes at. I pledge to call out racism when I see it. I pledge to never be complicit with the racial bigotry happening around me. I pledge to always work to detox my own self from the racist culture I have been saturated in since birth. And, in the words of Mia McKenzie, I pledge to PUSH BACK against my privilege. 

The rights/safety of people of color is not an issue that is theirs alone. It is the white community’s burden to take it upon ourselves and combat this shit when it happens.

Aug
9
2014

Asked by Anonymous:

what is a "heteronormative woman"?


I’m sure this entry is problematic in some way or another…but this should essentially define the word for you.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heteronormativity

Jul
31
2014

Reblogged from so-so-gender-fly :

Don’t Say:

so-so-gender-fly:

   

Women: when what you really mean is cis women

Women: when what you really mean is white women

Women: when what you really mean is heteronormative women

Women: when what you really mean is middle-class women

Women: when what you really mean is Westernized women

Women: when what you really mean is a super specific kind of woman that does not, cannot represent the vast ways in which women exist   

                

Reblogging cause this is kinda important

Jul
30
2014

Reblogged from thelesbianguide :

Asked by Anonymous:

I was wondering if you could help me out. I think I'm bisexual but I'm wondering if I'm just a lesbian too. I'm confused because I find guys attractive but penis totally freaks me out like I want nothing to do with it, doesn't turn me on at all. And I definitely like girls and vagina. I have a girlfriend currently and I have had 4 boyfriends but only one of those did we actually act like a couple and do anything sexual. The other 3 I didn't even hold their hand so idk it's confusing me, help?


thelesbianguide:

Hey anon - great question!

How a person identifies is 100% up to them. Having some romantic or physical attractions to people who identify as men and women could mean you may want to identify as bisexual. Only ever wanting to engage in sex and relationships with women could also mean you could identify as a lesbian. The beauty of sexuality is that it is up to you to communicate to others. No one can tell you who you like or what you are. Try to separate who a person is with from how a person identifies. Although a person may have dated men that does not mean they have to identify as bisexual. Find a label that fits most comfortably for you. Think about how it describes your feelings, what you want to communicate to others when sharing this label, and how you want to present yourself in the world.

I know someone who has attractions to men but has decided she will never engage in a relationship or sex with a man again. For political reasons, and to show greater visibility in her small community, she chooses to identify as a lesbian. If you are open to relationships or sexual encounters with men and women then maybe bisexual could be a good fit. Being open to something does not mean you have to then go do it. Another really cool label people have started using is “pansexual” - someone who is attracted to others on an individual basis. This would do less with sex and gender and more to do with that level of attraction. 

Lastly, know there is no need to label yourself at all. Get to know yourself, your desires, and as you age note that these may change. If you are attracted to all kinds of people, great! If you find yourself starting to find only women attractive, great! Labels help describe feelings but you already know how you feel.

—- LadyCave

BLEEEH. This anon question is transphobic and transmisogynistic as fuck. Since the moderator who answered it failed to point that out in their response, (*clears throat*) allow me:

  • STOP REDUCING PEOPLE TO THE SUM OF THEIR PARTS 
  • SOME WOMEN HAVE PENISES
  • SOME MEN HAVE VAGINAS
  • THERE ARE WAYS OF COMMUNICATING YOUR IDENTITY/DESIRES/ATTRACTIONS WITHOUT RESORTING TO “EWW…PENIS”
  • TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN AND THEY FUCKING MATTER

Sincerely,

genderqueer dyke

Jul
30
2014

Reblogged from so-so-gender-fly :

On Pronouns: They Matter

so-so-gender-fly:

If you ever find yourself under the impression that pronoun choices don’t matter…that misgendering is simply a matter of an individual being “overly sensitive” (whatever that actually means)…then change yours tomorrow. If they truly are unimportant you should have no trouble hearing yourself referred to as something you don’t identify as. 

One month later, and guess what….THEY STILL MATTER!

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